JULIET ALLEN
Global Leading Sexologist
Empowering women and men to embrace their sexuality and transform their sex and relationships.
Empowering women and men to embrace their sexuality and transform their sex and relationships.
The private membership - for women ready to feel empowered, free and wildly lit-up by their sexuality, relationships and life.
In 2017, Juliet created an innovative and holistic collection of natural sex toys — The Juliet Pleasure Wand is designed to heighten your sexual energy, increase self-love and self-pleasure and connect you to your true sexual essence.
With a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner, Juliet shares her expertise on sex and relationships, plus facilitates real-life conversations about sex with some of the world’s leaders in the field of sexuality and relationships.
I'm recording this one from a very special spot, sitting in my new car, picked up this morning, overlooking the ocean. It felt like the perfect place to talk about something that's a huge part of my life: manifestation. I manifested this car. I manifested my dream man, the man I'm engaged to marry. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly how - the honest part about the work it takes, plus my actual process, from core values to vision boards to sex magic.
This is the final rapid fire Q&A for a little while, as I’ve been working through the questions that were asked inside SexLife™. There are some really beautiful ones, and as always, I’m answering them the way I love to: like voice notes between friends.
In this episode I’m diving into: how to follow the pleasure after divorce without over-thinking whether you’re “doing it right,” how to feel and release more emotion when you’re someone who tends to suppress, how to work with a childhood wound around safety and not feeling chosen that keeps resurfacing even when your life is full and loved, and my take on morning versus night sex.
I also open up about my own week and share more of what’s been happening behind the scenes, the emotional work I’m moving through myself right now, and the cycles that show up again. Because none of this is one-and-done. We keep peeling back the layers.
I’m back with another rapid fire Q&A, answering questions from the women inside SexLife™.
In this episode I’m answering four questions: how to keep the spark alive after 20 years together when he’s perfectly content and you’re craving more play and aliveness, how to train your body toward non-clitoral orgasms through edging and full-body energy, bringing more pleasure into a man’s life (in and out of the bedroom), and how to stop feeling a bit “ick” about sex when you’re deep in the logistics of raising kids and running a business together.
I also share a personal update from our first month settling in Sydney after a year and a half on the road, why grounding and health have become the priority for our family right now, and what’s been happening behind the scenes in life and business.
I’m answering your questions, and I love these episodes because I promise you, if you’ve asked a question, there are others listening who have wondered the same thing and will get so much out of the answer.
In this episode I’m answering topics from questions and conversations inside SexLife™: how to relax enough to orgasm with a lover, how to surrender in bed when control has always felt safer, how to tell the difference between protection that’s still serving you and protection that’s just keeping you small, and how to keep the spark alive after 20 years together when one of you is perfectly content and the other is starving for more. These are rapid fire answers - honest, direct, and real.
There was a point in my life where I thought great sex was just something you either had or you didn’t. You were born wildly sexual or born pretty vanilla, and that was it. In my opinion, that’s a complete lie. The truth is, most people are practicing the same three moves on repeat and calling it a sex life. Sex isn’t something you’re born naturally good at. It’s a skill, it’s presence, it’s a choice, and it’s something we work on, the same way a musician masters their instrument.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the four pillars of sexual artistry - inner work, presence, devotion, and creativity - and giving you a taste of the five sexual archetypes I work with, including each one’s gift and its shadow. Because knowing your archetype is step one, but what you do with it is the part that actually changes your sex life.
Most of us learned sex through performance. It’s a goal-oriented script, and we’ve internalised it so deeply we don’t even know we’re following it.
When you actually slow down, and I mean really slow down, slower than feels comfortable or reasonable, the nervous system shifts. The breath deepens, the body softens, and your capacity for sensation expands in ways that will genuinely surprise you.
In this episode, I’m sharing four practical ways to bring slow sex into your life, how to introduce it with a partner, and what your body can do when it’s not being rushed. Because honestly, if you like it, you won't be able to go back to how it was before. And that's the point. It's going to ruin you in the most beautiful way.
I’m going straight in on this one, no fluff. This episode dives into seven things I genuinely don’t recommend, and things I talk about a lot with clients and inside my community.
We cover: faking orgasms (and why it keeps everyone disconnected from the truth), treating sex like a performance instead of dropping into real presence, numbing yourself with alcohol just to feel open, overriding your body's no out of guilt, over-relying on vibrators, running on stress and poor sleep and wondering why your libido is low, or expecting your partner to magically know what you want. This is the episode you didn't know you needed.
Most of us bring the career woman straight through the front door, and then wonder why we feel disconnected, touched-out, and never in the mood. This episode is about the 10-minute ritual you can do that changes all of that.
Foreplay doesn’t start at 9pm, it starts at 9am. In this episode, I’m talking about why so many people struggle to feel “in the mood” in long-term relationships, the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and why you cannot go from spreadsheets, stress, parenting, emails, and survival mode straight into surrender in 90 seconds.
I also share practical ways to rebuild erotic connection throughout the day, from the way you text each other, to the micro-moments of affection, attention, devotion, and intentionality that create anticipation long before sex even begins.
This episode is all about dismantling the stigma around fantasies. I often find that so many of us, especially women, are walking around carrying shame about what turns us on. I share why I believe our fantasies actually inform us about our erotic selves, and how, if we can tap into that, it allows us to feel more alive in our bodies. Our fantasies are not a confession, they’re a conversation.
In this episode, I’m answering a series of recent community questions in a rapid-fire Q&A format, sharing honest reflections from both my personal and professional experience.
We explore topics including:
Erotic connection in long-distance relationships
Moving out of victimhood and a victim mindset
Navigating mismatched libido in relationships
Shifting from pressure to excitement in intimacy
Building a successful online business and showing up authentically
Reflections from my own relationships, experiences, and learnings along the way
…and so much more.
For a couple of years, I explored non-monogamy, open relating, and the world of polyamory believing it aligned with freedom, truth, and conscious love. And in many ways, it taught me so much. But over time, something deeper began to shift inside me.
In this episode, I’m sharing the real reasons I chose to leave polyamory and why I now consciously choose monogamy in my relationship and life. This isn’t about right or wrong, judgement, or telling anyone how they should love - it’s simply my honest experience of what intimacy, devotion, safety, polarity, and emotional depth have come to mean to me as I’ve evolved.
In this episode, I explore the identity shift that happens in motherhood, why so many women feel disconnected from their bodies, desire, and sense of self, and the deeper truth behind it all - nothing is actually wrong with you. This is a conversation about coming back to yourself, reclaiming your sensuality, and remembering that you are not just a mother… you are a woman, a lover, a whole human being.
Life has been full… work, motherhood, responsibility - all the things. In this episode, I share a personal update and answer a question from my community: how do I stay connected to my feminine when I’m doing so much as a mother and career woman?
I open up about what I’m navigating behind the scenes - the balance between doing and being - and how I stay connected to my feminine without letting resentment build.
You’ve been lied to about what’s sexy. In this episode, I unpack one of the biggest myths women have been sold - that youth equals sex appeal.
I share my own experience of navigating ageing, the identity shifts that came with it, and why I feel more confident, grounded, and sexy now than I did in my 20s and 30s.
We talk about embodiment and what actually creates magnetism in a woman. Because real sexiness isn’t something you lose with age… it’s something you deepen into.
What happens when you want sex more than your partner?
This is something so many women experience… but almost no one talks about. In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about mismatched desire - specifically when you’re the one with the higher sex drive - and why this dynamic can feel so confusing, triggering, and even confronting.
We explore how to stop taking it personally, what might actually be going on for him, and how to navigate this in a way that creates deeper connection… not more pressure.
Because this isn’t just about sex. It’s about communication, polarity, self-worth, and how you relate to desire in your life as a whole.
If you’ve ever felt rejected, frustrated, or unsure how to handle this dynamic… this episode is for you.
In this episode, I share a personal reflection on the inner work that transformed my experience of intimacy from something average and predictable into something alive, expansive, and truly fulfilling. This isn’t about quick tips or surface-level techniques - it’s about the deeper layers most people avoid. The emotional honesty, the willingness to look at your patterns, and the courage to shift how you relate to yourself and others. If you’ve ever felt like something is missing in your sex life, or that you’re capable of more depth, connection, and aliveness than what you’re currently experiencing, this conversation will open your eyes to what’s actually required to get there!
So many people are settling for the bare minimum in their romantic relationships… and calling it “normal.” In this episode, I unpack what the bare minimum actually looks like - and why it’s something we should expect as a standard… not a luxury.
In this new episode, I’m opening a conversation about something many women are curious about but rarely taught properly - self-pleasure. I share why self-pleasure is such an important practice for women, not just for orgasm, but for connection with your body, nervous system regulation, confidence, and sexual self-awareness. Inside the episode I talk about:
• Why self-pleasure matters for women’s intimacy and relationship with others
• How to approach self-pleasure in a more mindful, embodied way
• My personal self-pleasure ritual and how I create space for it
• How to explore sensation slowly rather than rushing to the finish line
• How to use The Juliet Pleasure Wand as a tool for deeper sensation and body awareness
This episode is for women who feel curious about exploring their own pleasure, reconnecting with their bodies, and learning how to create a more intentional self-pleasure practice. Whether you’re completely new to self-pleasure or simply want to deepen the way you experience it, this conversation will give you a gentle, empowering place to begin.
In this episode, Juliet explores why so many relationship struggles aren’t about communication or chemistry - they’re about core values. She breaks down what core values really are, how they shape your standards and sense of safety, and why ignoring them slowly erodes self-trust. When your values are dishonoured, resentment builds. When they’re honoured, you feel steady, clear, and aligned. Juliet shares how to identify your true values (not the ones that sound good, but the ones that feel right in your body) and explains why chemistry creates spark, but values create sustainability. This episode is a powerful invitation to stop overriding yourself - and start building love from a foundation that actually fits.
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