3 types of sacred foreplay

Let’s expand on our definition of foreplay beyond just the physical (although that is also a truly sensual and pleasurable thing that deserves more airtime).

The 3 hot tips below are for anyone who wants to connect deeply with a partner/lover and can be practised anytime, not just in the initiation of sex. Have fun!

Words are their own form of foreplay

It can be a big turn on to communicate to your lover/s what you’re doing, what you want to do or have done to you.

When diving in with new sexual partners, it’s important to have open and honest conversations to get to know each other more intimately. FYI, this doesn't have to be stale and awkward, it can be totally hot! You can discuss things like; What are your turn-ons, turn-offs, fantasies, and desires? What areas on your body do you like to be touched (or not be touched)? Is there a sexual activity you’ve been wanting to explore? An intention you want to set? Toys you want to use?

Eye contact

There is nothing more powerful than deep presence and eye gazing. Begin being intimate by looking deeply into each other’s eyes. This may feel uncomfortable and silly at first, especially for those who have never experienced it. But trust us, a good amount of eye contact before and during sex is amazingly powerful and connective on so many levels. A good sign that someone is comfortable in their own skin iis that they can maintain eye contact and presence while making love.

If this intimates you, I recommend you practice getting familiar with your own eyes by gazing into the mirror solo.

Go with the flow

When people can be unburdened by any pressure to get sexual and instead just be effortless and enjoy each moment and sensation of pleasure, it opens up the potential for a great deal of passion, often instantaneous arousal, and a deep capacity for mutual ecstasy.

When there’s a great connection between lovers, whether it’s a long-term relationship or a one-time fling, everything has the potential to be foreplay– not just in a sexual context. Each conversation, each touch, each greeting, and each challenge in some way keep the juices flowing!