8 Ways to Support a Woman Experiencing Pregnancy Loss

Every woman experiencing pregnancy loss is worthy of acknowledgement, love and support. And for those who are supporting a woman going through such a loss, here’s some practical and simple ways in which you can make a difference.

Acknowledgment.

Acknowledge the pregnancy and the baby, no matter how early the loss was. There is no point in pretending it didn't happen, and ignoring the situation isn't healthy and will not support the woman to heal - acknowledge the loss.

Ask how you can support her best.

Often times it's hard to know exactly how we can best support someone, especially in such a challenging and painful time. Ask "How can I best support you?" or, "What do you need to feel loved and supported by me right now?" Sometimes a hug is all she will need (and a listening ear and open heart).

Take her warm nourishing food.

Make time to cook some warm, nourishing food (perhaps her favourite dish) and offer to bring it over, no strings attached. If cooking isn't your forte, pick up some healthy takeaway. This isn't an automatic invite to pop over for dinner though - check in with your loved one and ask her if she'd prefer you drop it at the doorstep (she may want space), or if she'd enjoy some company. If you are her partner, cook for her each day, for as long as possible. This will allow her to rest and process.

Check in regularly.

Take time to check in with the woman and ask how she is feeling. Or simply, tell her you are thinking of her. Texting is a beautiful way to do this, or perhaps she would prefer a phone call. If you are her partner, simply asking "How are you feeling today? I'm here for you." is often enough. Listen without judgement.

Random acts of kindness.

Bring gifts - fresh flowers, food, a hot water bottle, her favourite chocolate, a warm blanket, her favourite meal, a new book, a hug, a foot massage ... but most of all, the gift of presence and time. Sit with her, be present. Simply be with her and allow her to grieve. It will take time, and your presence and love will be felt. Be patient, be kind.

Don't pretend you understand how she feels.

Pregnancy loss feels different for each individual woman. We are all so unique in how we move through grief and process emotion when we lose a child. Don't assume you know what she's going through, especially if you have never experienced this kind of loss yourself. Continue to listen without judgement and be present, this is the best gift you can give her.