Sex Goals for Couples
Talk openly
Prioritise open conversations about sex, desires, boundaries, and fantasies without judgment or fear of rejection.
Express yourself
Sex is not just about physical pleasure—it's also a chance for connection and fun! Don't be afraid to express yourself vocally, using breath, sound and movement to connect deeply.
Learn how to decline sex lovingly
It's natural to not always be in the mood for sex (even in new relationships). When you feel like it’s a ‘no’, communicate openly with your partner. Let them know it's not about them, but simply how you're feeling in that moment. You could say, "I love feeling close to you, however I'm feeling tired/stressed/anxious right now. I would love to cuddle instead, if you’re open to that?"
Plan sensual surprises
Surprise your partner with new and exciting experiences, both in and out of the bedroom! Try out new positions, give a sensual massage, or bring in some fun toys to keep things fresh and spontaneous.
Share your self-pleasure style
Guide your lover through how and where you like to be touched, including what type of pressure to use so they can get to know you better. If you feel comfortable, consider putting on a little show for them or invite them to self-pleasure alongside you (AKA mutual masturbation).
Honour and negotiate differing levels of desire
Every person has their own level of sexual desire, and this can differ between lovers. It’s important to recognise and accept that libido changes for a variety of reasons. Respect each other's evolving needs and develop a balance that works for the both of you. This might mean finding compromises, trying new ways to initiate intimacy, or exploring different forms of pleasure so you are both feeling happy and fulfilled.
Deepen connection beyond the bedroom
Make it a point to nurture intimacy throughout your entire relationship, not just during sexual moments. Show your care by expressing desire for your partner in everyday moments, without the expectation of it leading to sex.
