Making Love vs. Fu*cking

Is it possible to ‘make love’ with someone when you sleep with them for the first time? Or make love to them even when you're not actually 'in love' with them? Yes. Yes. Yes.

Often we make the mistake of assuming that 'making love' is something that’s only for people who are 'in love'. But this is far from the truth. When we are both connected at our four centres - our sex centre, our heart centre, our tummy centre or our intuition & our consciousness - sex becomes a beautiful exchange of energy, love and magical union. Sex becomes love in a physical and spiritual form.

And love making this way isn't just about the stereotypical eye gazing and gentle, sensual pleasure ... when making love we can still experience being fucked, or 'fucking', and still enjoy the rawness and vast possibilities of rough and fast sex ... but we do this consciously with love guiding us, and with an underlying genuine care, presence and respect for our lovers.

I admit that I used to cringe when people talked about 'making love' ... unless I was with a long term partner I preferred to use the term ‘fucking’. I felt like ‘making love’ was too loaded and too much. Saying that, I still enjoy using the word ‘fucking’. That word turns me on, especially when used during sex. But my perspective is definitely shifting now, my experience of sex is expanding beyond what I ever imagined possible. And love making is my new compass, my new standard … my new way of relating.