The Power of Foreplay.
Today I want to talk about foreplay - an essential component of any sexual experience - and how we can redefine it to be more inclusive and holistic. Often, foreplay is seen as a quick, time-sensitive set of experiences that lead up to penetrative sex. But what if I told you that foreplay is much more than that? It can actually be a time spent exploring shared desires, connecting on a deep somatic and embodied level, communicating effectively with your lover and co-regulating our nervous systems. Let's dive in, shall we?
Firstly, foreplay is not just about physical touch, but it's also about emotional, intellectual, and sexual connection. Emotional foreplay involves creating a safe space where you and your partner can share your feelings, desires, and needs. This can involve talking about your hopes and dreams, your fears and insecurities, and anything that's on your mind.
“Foreplay starts at the end of the previous orgasm” - Esther Perel
Intellectual foreplay involves stimulating your partner's mind by engaging in deep and meaningful conversations, playing games, or sharing fantasies. This can help you connect with each other on a deeper level, creating a strong sense of intimacy and trust.
Physical foreplay, on the other hand, involves using touch techniques to create a sensual experience. Take it slow, tease, hover, and explore your partner's body to build anticipation and excitement. Use simple body scratches or a shoulder rub to create a soothing and relaxing environment, while describing everything you want to do to your partner while inching closer and closer.
Sexual/erotic foreplay involves leaning into the sensual by using sexting, dirty talk, and erotic embodiment. Sexting and dirty talk can be an exciting way to communicate your desires and fantasies, creating a sense of anticipation and arousal.
Erotic embodiment, also known as sensual or erotic touch, involves exploring your partner's body with your mouth, tongue, and lips, discovering new erogenous zones and sensations. It's a way to intimately connect with your partner's body, heightening the pleasure and sensations for both of you. It's important to communicate with your partner throughout this process and make sure you are both comfortable with the level of touch and intensity. The goal is to enhance your pleasure and deepen your connection, so take your time and enjoy the experience together.
So remember, foreplay is an essential part of any sexual experience. It's not just a prelude to sex but a time to connect with your lover on a deeper level, to communicate your desires, and to build trust and intimacy. So, take your time, explore each other's bodies, and most importantly, have fun!
And if you're excited to learn more about my take on sacred foreplay and how to connect deeply with your partner, check out my 3 hot tips HERE. These tips can be practised anytime, not just in the lead-up to sex. Enjoy!
