The Sexologist's Hand Job Guide
I have to admit, handjobs haven't always been my forte. In fact it was only 6 years ago when I met Nick that I started learning about how to give a good one ;)
6 years on I can confidently say I'm pretty damn good at them, and confident, too. So today I'm here to share my personal tips and tricks (as per your requests in the comments here).
But before I launch into my saucy tips, here's a little story about how I learnt to be SO GOOD.
Early on in our relationship Nick expressed his love for hand jobs. I was like 'Uh oh, this ain't my forte, and I'm supposed to be the sexologist. Shit'. (I didn't say that, I thought it, lol). So I was honest with him, and told him I didn't feel that confident in this area of sex, and that I'd love him to show me how he liked it.
As you can imagine, this was a huge turn on for him; teaching a new lover how to pleasure his cock. So we got to it, he showed me what he liked, and I began practicing. Turns out I was a natural ;) And before long I found myself giving them all the time because it turned me (and him) on so much!
So here's my top tips:
*Remember every penis owner likes different things, so it's important that you ask your lover what they want, and what they enjoy. Not all tips will be right for every lover, so don’t be afraid to ask.
Start slow. Don't race to the finish line by grabbing his cock and rubbing up and down with haste. Build momentum. Tease him with soft strokes around his balls, perineum, anus and inner thighs. Even a few little kisses in all the right places will warm him up. Then gently and with intention, move to his cock. Softly. Slowly. You want him to really want more, and want it bad! You want him to be begging for it.
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