Love or Lust? Is your lover right for you?
In the somewhat complicated world of relationships, dating and situationships, figuring out the difference between love and lust is crucial for finding the connections you truly desire.
Imagine this: you meet someone new, and there's a magnetic energy between you both. Your heart races, you feel excitement coursing through straight down to your sex centre. But in the midst of all this intoxicating allure, you wonder – could this be driven by genuine love-at-first-site, or is it just a strong feeling of lust? Does this scenario sound familiar?
Enter the 4 centres of Attraction… These checkpoints guide your path in determining the direction you truly wish to take with potential lovers, freeing you from external expectations and influences.
Sex Centre:
This is where the magic begins – the spark of sexual attraction. It's that electric energy that draws you in and gets you feeling hot and heavy. Pay attention to this primal instinct, but remember, it's just one piece of the puzzle.
Tummy:
The gut feeling – your intuition can speak volumes through a labyrinth of emotions. Trust this inner compass, as it often holds the key to deeper understanding. What does it reveal about this connection?
Heart Centre:
This is where emotional heart resonance lives – the deep, soulful connection that goes beyond just liking someone from attraction. Look for a bond that feels true to your heart, one that resonates with authenticity and depth.
Head:
Engage your rational mind – the voice of reason when emotions are swirling. Consider compatibility and if your values, goals, and lifestyles match up. Are you truly on the same page beyond the surface allure?
I speak about this concept heaps in Pleasure School™ and there's a guided meditation in there too that will help you listen deeply to these centres.
Now, here's a revelation – love and lust can coexist or stand alone. You may have found yourself feeling an intense longing without genuine connection, or you might have discovered a profound bond that ignites both desire and love.
When it comes to choosing sexual partners, whether it’s casual or long-term, relying only on our initial thoughts or sexual charge may not always lead to the most fulfilling decision. While I’m a big advocate for exploring different sexual experiences, it’s also essential to be mindful of who we let into our intimate space and share our sexual energy with. Trust and safety are super important, along with other considerations like mutual respect and communication.
Regardless of gender, when we have sex with someone, we not only connect physically but also energetically. This connection can deeply impact us emotionally and spiritually, for better or for worse.
So, as you navigate sex and relationships, remember to check in with your four centres. Often, true fulfilment comes when all four align, guiding you towards meaningful and lasting connections.
