Self-Love in Partnership: Why Masturbation is healthy in a Relationship.
As a sexologist and relationship coach, I'm often asked about masturbation in relationships, and I've noticed there's a lot of confusion and stigma around this topic. Some people worry that masturbating while in a relationship means they're not satisfying their partner or that their partner isn't satisfying them. Others feel guilty or ashamed about masturbating, thinking it's a sign of infidelity or a lack of sexual interest in their partner.
However, I want to emphasise that masturbation is not only okay in a relationship, but it's also healthy and can even improve your sex life with your partner. In fact, I encourage all my clients to explore their own sexuality, both alone and with their partner(s).
Why? Well for starters, masturbation is a natural and normal part of human sexuality, something that most people do whether they're in a relationship or not. It allows you to explore your own desires and preferences, which can help you communicate more effectively with your partner about what you like and don't like in the bedroom.
Masturbation can also be a great way to keep your own sexual energy flowing, leading to more satisfying sexual experiences with your partner! It can help you feel more comfortable with your own body and sexuality, which can lead to increased confidence and intimacy with others (something we all desire, right?)
And let's not forget the physical benefits of masturbation as well. It can help alleviate menstrual cramps, reduce stress and anxiety, and even help you sleep better. All of these things can have a positive impact on your overall health and wellbeing, which leads to higher libido and increased vitality on a daily basis.
While there are situations where masturbating in a relationship may become problematic, it's important to remember that this is a conversation to have with yourself and your partner. Are you avoiding intimacy with others, or are you simply taking the time to connect with your own sexuality? If you find yourself in the former category, it might be time to examine why that's happening and address any underlying issues.
All in all masturbation is normal and natural and I vote YES for everyone to be doing it regularly, partnered or not! Don't let anyone make you feel guilty or ashamed for exploring your own body and desires. Embrace your sexuality and enjoy all the amazing benefits that come with it!
