The latest sex trend, pegging. What the hell is it? And how can you try it?
Pegging has been in the spotlight lots lately, and for great reason! Pegging challenges cultural norms around sexuality, gender roles and relationship dynamics. And seeing as I love breaking taboos and smashing stigma, I’m here to talk about it.
So let’s start at the very beginning, what exactly is pegging?
Pegging typically involves a penis owner being anally penetrated with a strap-on by a vulva owner. However, anyone can be penetrated anally or use a strap-on, regardless of their genitals or gender.
The Perks of Pegging
Pegging gives couples the opportunity to explore power play and role reversal, which shifts the relationship dynamic and most definitely spices things up (if you’re into that sort of thing, of course).
The payoff of pegging can be truly incredible, from stimulating the prostate and enjoying anal orgasms, to learning to lead, dominate and surrender in the bedroom. And of course the empowerment and intimacy that comes from such an experience can be next level.
For penis owners, there is even more to pegging than a great orgasm and anal pleasure. There are also health benefits to massaging the prostate (more on that another day)!
For couples, it can allow each individual to experience sex from their partner's perspective, exploring what it feels like to both penetrate and be penetrated and discover the vulnerability of opening up one's body and emotions to another (this can be super powerful and life changing).
Prepping for Pegging
It’s pretty common for there to be some challenges and things to move past before exploring pegging. Whether it's looking into the conditioning and beliefs about 'traditional' roles, or processing shame and fear surrounding the act itself. It’s totally normal to feel this way, and it’s important that your feelings are acknowledged and accepted.
What's most important when trying something new though, is that you are with a partner/lover you trust, feel safe with and can openly communicate with. Communication is KEY, and talking about boundaries and agreements is essential prior to exploring the act itself.
And remember, pegging isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. It’s totally okay to be curious about trying pegging, but not actually wanting to go through with it. If that’s the case for you, I recommend exploring the act as a visual and verbal fantasy and an idea that turns you on when you talk about it. And then leaving it at that for now ;)
Basic Pegging Prep
If you’re ready to explore physically, here’s a few simple ways to begin prepping:
Talk about boundaries in relation to the act. Example: I’m open to exploring with you, however I want to begin by just putting the dildo on the outside of my anus, without actual penetration.
Make sure the person who is receiving has an empty bowel. In other words, do not engage in pegging when you need to poo … this will likely end in a bit of a clean up (which is totally normal when it comes to anal sex, btw).
The person who is leading and wearing the strap on must go slow - remember that the receiver (men especially), may have never been penetrated in this way. It’s REALLY important that you check in with them and only enter them when they are ready and feel open.
Do your reading and research! There’s plenty of resources online about pegging - learn lots and become familiar with the dos and don’ts before you begin.
Find a strap-on harness that fits! There’s plenty of strap-on harnesses on the market that are cheap and nasty. I recommend doing research and finding a harness that fits well, which means you may pay more, but the comfort levels will be next level.
And finally, explore using different dildos that are compatible with the harness you choose. I recommend starting small if this is the first time that the receiver has explored anal sex ;)
