The Art of Fingering
Alright, hands up who's a big fan of fingering?! I feel like people either LOVE IT, or don't.
I was out to lunch with a friend recently and we were talking about how fingering needs to feature more in everyone's sexual repertoire. It seems fingering gets a great run for its money in the teen years, then takes a back seat when other (often bigger) items come into play during penetrative sex. I personally love it, and believe it can bring a lot of pleasure, which is why I'm here to share more on the topic.
Firstly, remember we’re all unique with what we do and don’t enjoy sexually. So if fingering isn’t your thing, that’s okay. If it is, or you’re simply curious to learn more, then keep reading.
Let's define 'fingering'. I define it as using a finger, or fingers, to penetrate either the vagina or anus (or both at the same time, if you're feeling adventurous). Today I’m choosing to focus on fingering the vagina.
Often for many people, 1-2 fingers can feel like the 'sweet spot' when it comes to fingers in the pussy, however some would say the more fingers the better. I'll leave it up to you to decide what's best for you, remembering it may differ depending on the size of the fingers (and the hole it's entering, of course). Either way it’s not all about how many fingers… there’s a skill to fingering, and it doesn’t come naturally to everyone (pardon the pun).
Here’s a few pointers (pardon the pun again!) for those of you who are curious (or wanting to brush up on your skills):
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