How To Increase Intimacy & Connection in the Boudoir
One of the biggest questions I get asked as a sexologist is ‘How do my partner and I take sex from f*cking… to making love?’ Unfortunately, there’s no simple and easy way to answer this question because each couple is different, and each individual brings their own ‘stuff’ into the relationship. By ‘stuff’, I mean challenges from the past; childhood trauma, abuse, past relationship baggage…all the pain experienced as a human that is left unresolved, pushed down and not dealt with. Much of this pain prevents us from getting close to our partner. By close, I mean truly intimate, connected and spiritually united.
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Stop Climaxing and Start Connecting
Many clients come to me and report that sex is boring … it’s quick and very orgasm focussed and there’s something missing. Often my clients can’t pinpoint what is missing, but they know that there must be more to sex than what they’re experiencing. That something is the connection and intimacy that they unconsciously desire with their partner/lover and they don't know it's missing because they've never experienced it before.
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Practical Advice For a Healthy & Happy Vagina
Ladies, let’s be completely honest, there’s nothing worse than having a vagina that’s feeling a little ‘under the weather’. An itchy, sore, irritated vagina is downright annoying and if it’s an ongoing challenge it can seriously affect our physical and mental health and wellbeing. Reality is, vaginas are sensitive creatures that need tender loving care all-year-round. Here’s some practical tips on how you can take care of your precious love-making yoni on a daily basis.
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Rough Sex 101
During sex, the body's energy may become stagnant, heavy, or stuck. Biting, slapping and pinching can be used to stimulate energy in the nervous system and rouse a listless or sluggish body into more energetic ecstasy. Sometimes a little bit of pain, skilfully and lovingly administered, can greatly increase pleasure. Use this means freely, with real love and careful sensitivity. These techniques are simply aspects of creative sexual loving and should be used equally by men and women.
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Slow Sex Playlist For Lovers
I've been listening to a ton of music recently and it's been super powerful in that just by listening to slow sexual music I am tapping into my sex, desire and orgasm deeper than ever. So, with that in mind, I have put together a Slow Sex Playlist, specifically for the lovers out there who are looking to make love or fuck to new tunes.
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To period sex, or not to period sex?
It’s the age old question - ‘Should we have sex when we are bleeding?’. Well I say yes … if you want to that is. Truth is, like any other sexual activity, sex while menstruating is a personal preference. Some of us love it, some don’t. The bottom line is that we need to respect and love each other whether we do or don’t enjoy it.
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How To Fuck Strangers With Your Eyes … And Other Magical Sex Tricks
For those of you who have never experienced eye-fucking with a stranger, it goes a little something like this: firstly, you and your eye-fucking partner instantly feel that ‘something’ that draws you to each other … it’s like a magnetic sexual cosmic pull that’s intense from the moment you meet. The sexual chemistry is unashamedly there in all it’s glory and the energy between you both is like a bomb exploding inside your mind and body. Oh, and I refer to the connection as ‘cosmic’, because often it’s not always just your sex centre speaking, it’s your heart and your consciousness saying a ‘holy f*ck yes, yes, yes’ to that person.
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5 Magical Anal Sex Tips That Will Drive You Crazy
Magical anal sex?! Is there even such a thing?! Yes, yes there is, and if you’re reading this, I’m suspecting you’re curious as to how to experience it. So, what are the basics of magical anal sex and why is it so damn magical? Here’s 5 practical tips for those who want to try it, or those who want it to be a super powerful and pleasurable sexual experience.
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Moan and Scream Your Way To Better Sex
I’ve always been very vocal when making love and f*cking. No one taught me to be vocal, I just naturally allow sound to flow during sex, especially when I climax. When I was younger I thought every woman used sound (moaning, screaming, talking, whispering) to amplify her sexual experience … until I made love to a woman who was very quiet and controlled with her vocals … this experience gave me an insight into how unique our sexual experiences are, and so I wondered, 'is orgasm and sex more powerful if sound is used?'.
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Treat Me Like A Goddess, Or F*ck Off
Recently I was reminded that when a man fucks a woman, he enters her not just with his cock, but with his entire consciousness. Energetically we receive every man we fuck into every cell in our body … we receive their vibration into our heart and consciousness, and take on whatever is going on for that man in that moment in his life. Urggggggggg … reality check!
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Making Love vs. Fu*cking
Is it possible to ‘make love’ with someone when you sleep with them for the first time? Or make love to them even when you're not actually 'in love' with them? Yes. Yes. Yes. Often we make the mistake of assuming that 'making love' is something that’s only for people who are 'in love'. But this is far from the truth. When we are both connected at our three centres - our sex centre, our heart centre & our consciousness - sex becomes a beautiful exchange of energy, love and magical union. Sex becomes love in a physical and spiritual form.
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6 Secrets of Tantric Lesbian Sex
Is Tantric sex a ‘thing’ for women who have sex with women? How can we have deeper intimacy and ecstatic sex on a regular basis? My sex life with my woman is stale, how can I bring back the excitement? Every week I get questions from women who have sex with women about how they can experience better, more connected sex (on a regular basis). I myself have explored the world of Tantra with a female lover, and so I’m here to impart some secrets I’ve learnt along the way about Tantric lesbian sex.
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Tantra 101: Take Sex to a Whole New Level
Are you ready to take sex and intimacy to a whole new level? Do you feel like there’s something missing from your existing sex life? Or perhaps you’re craving a deeper and more powerful level of connection with your lover but can’t quite seem to reach it? Enter Tantric Sex. A conscious way of fucking that gives sex a whole new level of deliciousness and meaning.
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Music To Make Love & F*ck To This Summer
In my opinion, amazing sex can always feel even more amazing when you're met with an amazing playlist to fuck to. So, here's my top three playlists, ripe and ready for Summer.
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Mutual Masturbation 101: A Guide For Lovers & Self-Pleasure Enthusiasts
Mutual masturbation is when two (or more) people masturbate in each other’s presence. Perhaps you are both positioned on opposite sides of the room, or you’re alongside each other kissing, or you’re on opposite sides of the world, watching and listening via a screen. It doesn’t matter how you choose to do it, what matters is that you experience and embrace mutual masturbation as a regular practice with your lover/s.
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The Sacred Art Of Kissing
Kissing isn’t always about smacking your lips together and sharing saliva … no, there is so much more to kissing than that. So, what is it that makes for an exquisite kiss between two lovers? Is it the actual technique? Is it the energy exchange? Is it fast & passionate, or slow and lingering … or somewhere in-between?
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Magical Period Sex … Enjoy Amazing Sex Every Day Of The Month
I feel like there’s a lot of myths and stigma surrounding ‘period sex’ that I‘m ready to bust. Firstly, I’m sick and tired of seeing men’s faces screw up when the topic of periods and sex are brought up in conversation. Seriously, it’s time to open up men (and women) to the possibility that there’s SO much more to ‘period sex’ than just a traditional penetrative fu*k. And gentleman, seriously, you need to get over your period blood phobia and man up.
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Dear Women Who Don't Love Giving Blow Jobs
Let’s be honest, some women just do not enjoy giving blow jobs, full stop. And you know what, that’s ok, because worshipping co*k isn’t every woman’s cup of tea, so to speak. But then there’s the women who think they don’t enjoy it, but actually just don’t really know what to do … and so they’re not feeling confident with their blow job skills. Dear women who don’t love giving blow jobs, this article is for you.
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3 Ways You Can Pleasure Your Woman Every. Single. Day.
Let’s face it, women are not always easy to pleasure, nor are they easy to please. I know this because I am a woman, plus I’ve experienced sex with a number of women and wow, we certainly are all very unique in how we experience pleasure. If you’re reading this and relate, I’m here to give you a couple of simple tips and tricks that will guarantee increased pleasure that your woman experiences when she is with you next.
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6 Essential Oils for Sensuality, Sexuality & Libido
Over the past few months essential oils have become a huge part of my everyday life, including my sex life. I use the oils in a hot bath, in a diffuser in my bedroom, on my skin as perfume, and in coconut oil as a massage oil and daily moisturiser. I can honestly say the oils have taken my sensual and sexual life to a whole new level of ecstasy!
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