How To Feel Comfortable Naked Every Day
Nudity isn’t for everyone, but for me, it’s everything. Put simply, being naked is my natural state of being and wearing clothes feels restrictive. I understand that for many people this may sound ‘too much’, or perhaps it challenges people because the only time they’re naked is in the shower. Either way, I respect that we are all unique in our attitude towards nudity, but what I think we all need to agree on is spending time nude is completely normal and natural, and nudity is downright sexy.
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Why Being In Relationship is the Greatest Of All Spiritual Journey
When we choose to be in romantic relationship with another human, we choose to bare our soul and open our heart… all the while knowing that it may not work, it may not be the ‘forever fairytale’ we heard of as children, and it may, in the end, break our fu*cking heart to tiny little pieces. Yet knowing all this, we still enter into relationship… because there’s nothing quite like love and sex and all the fun stuff that relationship entails.
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4 Books That Will Change Your Sex Life
As a sexologist, I have a bookcase full of sex-related books that I regularly re-read for inspiration and education. Reading is a fantastic way to self-educate, which is essential if you want a plentiful and pleasurable sex life. If you’re in a relationship, reading about sex can open up a healthy discussion about sex with your partner, and is a sure fire way to spice up your sex life. If you’re single, there is no better time than now to begin empowering yourself as a sexual being. Reading about sex is bound to attract amazing sexual experiences into your life, and there’s nothing better than a well educated and confident lover!
The following is a list of 4 books that have something for everyone. I can almost guarantee that if you read them you will learn something new and feel inspired to live a life full of amazing and plentiful sex.
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Stop Climaxing and Start Connecting
Many clients come to me and report that sex is boring … it’s quick and very orgasm focussed and there’s something missing. Often my clients can’t pinpoint what is missing, but they know that there must be more to sex than what they’re experiencing. That something is the connection and intimacy that they unconsciously desire with their partner/lover and they don't know it's missing because they've never experienced it before.
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Am I Gay? Am I Straight? Or Am I Just Plain Sexual?
Why is it that people are hung up on the LGBTIQ labels? My belief is that labels box us into categories… which in turn gives the people around us some sort of understanding about who we are and where we ‘fit’ in. I don’t like the concept of labels, my wish is that we respect each other as humans and our sexuality doesn’t have to come into the equation if we are anything other than ‘straight’. But hey, labels are a huge part of our world, so what does that mean if we don’t seem to fit into any specific LGBTIQ category?
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Practical Advice For a Healthy & Happy Vagina
Ladies, let’s be completely honest, there’s nothing worse than having a vagina that’s feeling a little ‘under the weather’. An itchy, sore, irritated vagina is downright annoying and if it’s an ongoing challenge it can seriously affect our physical and mental health and wellbeing. Reality is, vaginas are sensitive creatures that need tender loving care all-year-round. Here’s some practical tips on how you can take care of your precious love-making yoni on a daily basis.
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Sex After Kids: Where Has My Libido Gone?
It’s a common and understandable challenge that many couples experience when they enter parenthood; the loss of libido and drive for the sex that once was. Let’s face it, parenthood isn’t all glitz and glamour, parenthood is full on. Yes, it’s a magical time and, as a Mother, I wouldn’t change a thing … but the demands of sleepless nights, breastfeeding, changes in hormones etc really does shake things up … and at the end of the day, couples struggle to make time for intimacy and connection, let alone mind-blowing sex.
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Rose Quartz Dildos: The secret gateway to expansive orgasms and a deeper self-pleasure practice
Earlier this month I gifted myself a brand new Rose Quartz pleasure wand (aka dildo). Yes, you heard right, I bought an actual rose quartz crystal that’s been carved into a beautiful wand/cock/phallic-like shape and made specifically to insert inside the vagina for ultimate pleasure.
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Rough Sex 101
During sex, the body's energy may become stagnant, heavy, or stuck. Biting, slapping and pinching can be used to stimulate energy in the nervous system and rouse a listless or sluggish body into more energetic ecstasy. Sometimes a little bit of pain, skilfully and lovingly administered, can greatly increase pleasure. Use this means freely, with real love and careful sensitivity. These techniques are simply aspects of creative sexual loving and should be used equally by men and women.
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Slow Sex Playlist For Lovers
I've been listening to a ton of music recently and it's been super powerful in that just by listening to slow sexual music I am tapping into my sex, desire and orgasm deeper than ever. So, with that in mind, I have put together a Slow Sex Playlist, specifically for the lovers out there who are looking to make love or fuck to new tunes.
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To period sex, or not to period sex?
It’s the age old question - ‘Should we have sex when we are bleeding?’. Well I say yes … if you want to that is. Truth is, like any other sexual activity, sex while menstruating is a personal preference. Some of us love it, some don’t. The bottom line is that we need to respect and love each other whether we do or don’t enjoy it.
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Am I Bisexual? Un-Defining My Sexuality In A World Full Of Labels
So, are you bisexual? Or are you more heterosexual than bisexual? Or what about that time you ‘turned lesbian?’, is that phase over now?
On a weekly basis I’m asked different versions of the above questions about my sexuality. And rightly so, people are naturally curious about sexuality and love to use labels to define human beings, thus placing us in boxes so that we can better understand each other. But what if labels were taken out of the equation, and we began to identify with being purely sexual?
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How To Fall In Love With Your Breasts
This is an invitation for all women, an invitation to begin seeing your breasts in a new light, an invitation to begin touching your breasts with love and embracing their beauty, just as they are. I know it’s not always that easy, to embrace and love a part of yourself that you’ve previously ignored, but I promise you that once you work through what it is that’s holding you back from embracing this part of your body, the rewards are endless and the self-love is unlimited.
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How To Fuck Strangers With Your Eyes … And Other Magical Sex Tricks
For those of you who have never experienced eye-fucking with a stranger, it goes a little something like this: firstly, you and your eye-fucking partner instantly feel that ‘something’ that draws you to each other … it’s like a magnetic sexual cosmic pull that’s intense from the moment you meet. The sexual chemistry is unashamedly there in all it’s glory and the energy between you both is like a bomb exploding inside your mind and body. Oh, and I refer to the connection as ‘cosmic’, because often it’s not always just your sex centre speaking, it’s your heart and your consciousness saying a ‘holy f*ck yes, yes, yes’ to that person.
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Fantasy File #01
Fantasy Files is a joint collaboration between Sexologist Juliet Allen and artist Tina Maria Elena. The project combines sexual fantasy, writing and art. Seven fantasies will be revealed over seven days, all written and submitted by real-life women from around the globe. The Fantasy Files project aims to empower women and men to embrace their sexual fantasy and desire and enjoy their sexuality in all it's senses.
"I can feel you watching me from across the room and this turns me on. I lose myself in the music and connect in with my body, feeling into what it would be like to have you inside me, feeling the weight of your body on top of me, behind me, underneath me. Without warning you appear behind me, your presence alone makes me wet, my pussy is yearning for your touch. I turn around, our eyes connect and I can feel the energy in my body rise up through my sex centre, opening my heart up to your cock energy. No words are needed, we both know what is about to unfold. We dance. You begin kissing my neck, my dress slips down and you are kissing my breasts. I feel myself completely surrendering to your touch and nothing else matters in this moment. It’s just you and I now."
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5 Magical Anal Sex Tips That Will Drive You Crazy
Magical anal sex?! Is there even such a thing?! Yes, yes there is, and if you’re reading this, I’m suspecting you’re curious as to how to experience it. So, what are the basics of magical anal sex and why is it so damn magical? Here’s 5 practical tips for those who want to try it, or those who want it to be a super powerful and pleasurable sexual experience.
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Fantasy File #02
Fantasy Files is a joint collaboration between Sexologist Juliet Allen and artist Tina Maria Elena. The project combines sexual fantasy, writing and art. Seven fantasies will be revealed over seven days, all written and submitted by real-life women from around the globe. The Fantasy Files project aims to empower women and men to embrace their sexual fantasy and desire and enjoy their sexuality in all it's senses.
"Later, I'm in the bathroom washing my hands when she comes out of a stall. She comes next to me and smiles, no words said. Whether it's the wine or the fantasy I've always had being so close to being fulfilled, I reach around the soft of her neck, pull her in and kiss her, deeply. She responds with her body and instantly we are wrapped around each other, kissing, feeling, moving in the stall she'd just minutes ago come out of. It isn't rushed or eager as I expected this may be. Rather, she's loving, has a look of desire, and I see a lot of myself and my wants in her. I think back to my partner, and how we've always talked about this, and I'm insanely turned on."
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Moan and Scream Your Way To Better Sex
I’ve always been very vocal when making love and f*cking. No one taught me to be vocal, I just naturally allow sound to flow during sex, especially when I climax. When I was younger I thought every woman used sound (moaning, screaming, talking, whispering) to amplify her sexual experience … until I made love to a woman who was very quiet and controlled with her vocals … this experience gave me an insight into how unique our sexual experiences are, and so I wondered, 'is orgasm and sex more powerful if sound is used?'.
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Fantasy File #03
Fantasy Files is a joint collaboration between Sexologist Juliet Allen and artist Tina Maria Elena. The project combines sexual fantasy, writing and art. Seven fantasies will be revealed over seven days, all written and submitted by real-life women from around the globe. The Fantasy Files project aims to empower women and men to embrace their sexual fantasy and desire and enjoy their sexuality in all it's senses.
"I move slowly around her, caressing her stomach, breasts, neck and arms with the tip of my crop. She moans softly but remains still with anticipation. My heels click on the floorboards as I take my place between her thighs. I pick up the small vile of hot, sweet, scented oil. I trickle the oil down the inside of her thighs. The heat bites her skin and she whimpers, but within seconds my hands are on her, soothing her, my hands running down her inner thighs. She quivers and sighs, but her legs held firmly in place cannot move. I massage the oil into the crevice of her thighs, down over her buttocks and back up across her smooth mound, brushing my fingers across her exposed clitoris. "
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How To Bring Your Relationship Back From The Brink
It’s the silent epidemic that most of will suffer from at some stage in our lives; loss of our mojo (aka sex drive). It’s a killer, especially when we are head over heels in love with our partner, and yet something in our mind and body clicks, and all-of-a-sudden we are literally sexless.
So, how do we keep our mojo alive on a daily basis? Well to be honest I think it’s completely normal and natural not to want sex every day, but I also think it’s not too big an ask to want to at least feel sexual daily (even if we don’t engage in the actual physical sex).
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