Rule number one when it comes to sex: there is no normal. Sex is a big part of our lives and yet it’s still a very taboo topic of conversation in our society. As a result, we don’t talk about sex enough and the lack of sex-talk leads to assumptions being made about our sex lives; Are we having sex enough? Is what we do in the bedroom normal? Should we be having sex daily? Are our neighbours doing it more than us?
Read MoreLet’s be honest, everyone at some stage has a secret sexual fantasy in the back of their mind (or their bedroom cupboard) that they are dying to share with their partner. Unfortunately, bringing up the topic of fantasy with a partner can be awkward, and often we end up keeping our sexual fantasies to ourselves. So how do we successfully go from fantasy, to reality? And what’s the best way to bring up the topic with our sexual partner?
Read MoreI’m a big believer in living simply and letting go of clutter that no longer serves me - this applies to both my home, and my head. I believe that if our house is messy and full of junk, then it’s a pretty good reflection of where our head is at. My advice: get rid of the messy clutter that you don’t need and allow new energy to flow into your home and your body.
Read MoreWe are all challenged by intimate long-term relationships at some stage in our life. The important thing is to identify what mistakes we are making, and resolve them as quick as possible. Here are 3 common relationship mistakes, and how to solve them.
Read MoreIt’s 2015 and women are faking orgasms left, right and centre. Personally I believe faking an orgasm is ripping myself off, which is why I choose not to do it. I’d rather not have an orgasm at all, than fake it with my partner. But not every woman is the same, in fact many women I speak to say they feel dissatisfied sexually and would rather ‘get it over and done with’. When this scenario plays out, their lovers assume their partner is sexually satisfied, and therefor don’t see the need to go the extra mile.
Read MoreSo there you are... in bed, having sex with your partner, but something feels missing. It’s that feeling where it’s semi-pleasurable, but they’re just not touching you the right way, yet you're unsure how to express it.
Read MoreIt’s not always easy to feel sexy everyday. ‘Life’ seems to get in the way and we are dealt with knock-downs; work stress, sleepless nights with kids, death of loved ones, relationship breakdowns, awkward sexual experiences… the list goes on. When life feels hard, feeling sexy doesn’t come naturally. Unfortunately though, the only person who can help you out of the unsexy rut is you.
Read MoreIt’s easy to get caught up in the common myths that circulate in society about sex. As taboo as the topic is, it seems people love gossiping about the ‘rights and wrongs’ and the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of sex and relationships. Today, I’m here to debunk my top 3 myths and clear up the little lies that we seem to tell ourselves about what should be a normal, natural and healthy part of life.
Lately I’ve been thinking lots about the sensual side of relationships…not so much the physical sex, but the experiences that help us feel connection and love on a day-to-day basis. I believe that every woman and man secretly (or not-so-secretly) crave the following experiences and that they are the sensual building blocks of healthy and pleasurable relationships.
Read MoreWhy is it that so many men (and women) feel like it’s ok to avoid using condoms? Listen up people, the rates of STI’s and HIV are rapidly rising in Australia, and yet many of us still think it’s OK to waltz around the bedroom naked without even the thought of using protection.
Read MoreJust like different styles of sex, sleeping naked isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. In fact according to a recent study in the US, only 8% of Americans sleep naked. This statistic seems extremely low, which inspired me to write about what I see as the upside of spending more time in the nude.
Read MoreLife as a serial entrepreneur and serial love addict isn’t always the best combination - both are long-term commitments that take time, passion and a hell-of-a-lot of energy and enthusiasm.
Read MoreWe all know what it’s like when life gets stressful…our emotional and physical health takes a dive and before long we find ourselves feeling like crap. All of us at some stage in life will experience major life events that increase our stress levels - illness, death of loved ones, work stress, sleepless nights with kids, failed friendships, broken hearts. The fact of the matter is that stress affects all areas of our lives, and often times, it ends up affecting our sex life.
Read MoreSleeping naked isn’t for everyone, but if it’s for you, then you’re onto a good thing. Personally, I can’t remember the last time I wore clothes to bed - it makes me feel restricted and I see sleeping nude as a great opportunity to cuddle up to my partner and enjoy a few hours of intimacy while we sleep. Don’t get me wrong, there’s all sorts of comfy and sexy pyjamas out there to enjoy this winter, but the most comfortable clothes you can possibly wear are no clothes at all. Not convinced? Read the 4 top health benefits of nude sleeping below:
Read MoreWinter is coming, and with it we often see a rise in the common cold and flu. Whilst lying in bed sniffling and sneezing, it’s likely that your desire for sex will be at an all-time low and there’s nothing worse than feeling ‘un-sexy’. Believe it or not, engaging in more sex at this time of the year will in fact boost your immunity and overall health and wellbeing. So with this in mind, here are 3 reasons why sex will give your health and happiness a boost in the coming months:
Read MoreIt seems that in today’s day and age, there is a unique art to keeping a loving relationship alive and well. The rates of divorce are always on the rise and there is an epidemic of unhappy couples and failed long-term relationships. If I held the key to keeping the spark alive, then I’d be one happy and wealthy sexologist. Unfortunately though, every individual relationship has its own unique challenges, and there is no quick fix for a once happy (and now falling-to-bits) couple.
Read MoreLovemaking is a lifelong journey that brings with it many ups and downs. As a sexologist, my job is to make sure my readers and clients are always learning more about sex and feeling empowered to experience great sex throughout their lifetime. Learning new techniques is all part of the quest for deeper intimacy and powerful sex, which brings me to three lovemaking techniques that I believe will enrich your journey and heighten your next sexual encounter:
Read MoreSex is supposed to bring us joy and pleasure, but more often than not sex is filled with worry, stress, and anxiety. The topic of sex is very complicated and it’s completely normal for every individual to have their different hangups and challenges about sex at different stages of life. If you do have sexual challenges that concern you, it may be time to chat to a professional and address the concerns. But before you do, read on and you may find that your worry is actually very common, and that perhaps you just need to stop worrying, let go, and start having more fun.
Read MoreAdults need sex education too, and in my opinion, we’re simply not getting enough. As children we experience a floored education system that doesn’t teach us anything about the complexities of sex and intimacy. We enter adulthood clueless, literally feeling our way through the ins and outs of sexual relationships. As a result, many of us assume that great sex should just magically ‘happen’, and when it doesn’t, we up and leave the relationship, or begin looking for sex outside of the relationship. I believe neither of these options are always the right solution and that couples and singles need to continually educate themselves about sex throughout their lifetime.
Read MoreI’m sick and tired of everyone talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t get me wrong - I’ve read the book and seen the movie. Overall I think it’s great that conversations about a kind of sex not usually depicted in the mainstream have opened up. But today I’m not interested in talking about BDSM or the movies as such. Today I’m talking about 50 Shades of Gay. As much as the mainstream embraced BDSM, it still kind of fails to embrace all the shades. That’s right - I’m talking sexuality, and the fact it’s not black and white or always heteronormative. Sexuality should be discussed and re-branded as being one of many possibilities.
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