Let’s be honest, some women just do not enjoy giving blow jobs, full stop. And you know what, that’s ok, because worshipping co*k isn’t every woman’s cup of tea, so to speak. But then there’s the women who think they don’t enjoy it, but actually just don’t really know what to do … and so they’re not feeling confident with their blow job skills. Dear women who don’t love giving blow jobs, this article is for you.
Read MoreAs a Sexologist, sex-enthusiast and mother, I offer you the following advice: talk to your kids about sex, masturbation, intimacy & sexual energy from a very young age. And another piece of advice … if you’re reading this and cringing, I suggest you get to a a good sex therapist/coach and dive deep into sorting out the ‘stuff’ that holds you back from having these conversations … because trust me, if you’re not comfortable talking about sex, then your kids won’t be either … and so the cycle will continue through the generations.
Read MoreEver wondered what it would be like to have a threesome? If you’re reading this, it’s likely that you’re curious. Perhaps you have no clue where to find the ideal person to experience it with? Or maybe you already have someone lined up for a threesome with your partner, but you’re not sure how to make it a ‘fool proof’ experience?
As a sex and relationship coach I spend a lot of time with my clients discussing the ‘how-to’s’ of threesomes … the who, what, where, when and why’s. You see, threesome’s sound fun (and they definitely can be VERY fun), but a lot of couples have fears about stuff going wrong. So, I’ve come up with six top tips that are guaranteed to help you have the best experience possible
Read MoreA rose quartz crystal dildo in my pussy, WTF? Yep, that’s what I thought when I first heard of crystal dildos, so I get it if you’re thinking this is yet another airy fairy hippy gimmick. Luckily, it’s not. In fact ever since using my first rose quartz Chakrubs dildo a few months ago, I’ve never looked back. So, what’s the big deal? Why am I pushing crystal dildos all-of-a-sudden? Well, let me enlighten you with a few simple facts about sex toys and vaginas.
Read MoreEvery now and then, when a relationship comes to an end, you might find yourself left devastated, grieving and needing to readjust things in your life. When this happens, it can be hard to see the light at the end of the breakup tunnel.
Here are my top 7 tips for surviving a breakup: a great place to start if you're looking to process and re-design!
Read MoreWithout a doubt all women seek to feel more sexually empowered at different stages in their lives. For some of us, sexual confidence comes naturally, for others, it doesn’t flow as easily. Either way is perfectly normal and there’s definitely no ‘rights and wrongs’ when it comes to sexuality and sexual confidence. The good news is that if you’re feeling a little disempowered, sexual empowerment can be learnt.
Read MoreLet’s face it, women are not always easy to pleasure, nor are they easy to please. I know this because I am a woman, plus I’ve experienced sex with a number of women and wow, we certainly are all very unique in how we experience pleasure. If you’re reading this and relate, I’m here to give you a couple of simple tips and tricks that will guarantee increased pleasure that your woman experiences when she is with you next.
Read MoreOver the past few months essential oils have become a huge part of my everyday life, including my sex life. I use the oils in a hot bath, in a diffuser in my bedroom, on my skin as perfume, and in coconut oil as a massage oil and daily moisturiser. I can honestly say the oils have taken my sensual and sexual life to a whole new level of ecstasy!
Read MoreEssential oils really are a huge part of my life and my sanity. I use them every single day in all sorts of ways, including to boost my sensuality and sex drive. What I love most about essential oils is that they are 100% natural and most of them are safe to use both externally, and internally. Plus they smell so damn good that they make my entire body and house smell super sensual and delicious.
Read MoreYesterday was Mother’s day and it prompted me to think about life as a parent and the challenges we face juggling parenthood, work life, relationship life, and the all-important sex life. “What sex life?!”, I hear some of you sigh. Yeah well, I totally get it … parenting is FULL ON, kids can be demanding, and it’s super common for our sex lives to suffer as a result.
Read MoreIt seems there are a lot of myths surrounding the topic of anal sex; it’s painful, men want it more than us women, women who love it are dirty. The list goes on and on, which leads to a misconception that the only people who love it are men having sex with men, and this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Anal sex is still somewhat of a taboo topic in mainstream conversation and, as far as I’m concerned, it’s not talked about enough. Which brings me to 5 anal sex myths (de-bunked):
Read MoreIt's the middle of Winter in Australia, the perfect time of the year to warm up the body with a libido boosting elixir each morning (aka 'the modern day healthy hot chocolate'). Winter is a time where our body naturally craves warm nourishing drinks and food and my secret (or not so secret) cacao elixir does just that. Not only does it taste delicious, but it also helps boost libido and energy levels ... who would say no to that?!
Read MoreShe is a woman, who, through ritual or psychological development, has come to know the spiritual side of her sexuality, her true eroticism, and lives this out according to her individual circumstances. The Sacred Slut resides within us all, both women and men - she’s not ashamed of her sexuality, she embraces it all and owns that part of herself.
Read MoreThe sacred art of cock worship, is it even a thing? Yes, it is! And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t require a bunch of magical Tantric sex techniques to achieve … in fact, cock worship is a simple and erotic practice that anyone can enjoy if they want it enough.So, what is cock worship? Well it’s a beautiful practice that involves worshipping and lavishing attention on the cock of your choice … naturally cock worship is best enjoyed with a lover of whom you adore.
Read MoreWithin us ALL is the masculine and feminine energy, regardless of whether we have a penis or vagina. The healthy mature masculine is deeply present, holds space, witnesses without judgement, creates safety, is on purpose and has integrity and awareness. The healthy mature feminine flows, surrenders, is playful, vulnerable, compassionate, authentic and intuitive.
Read MoreToday I'm feeling to talk about vulnerability and sharing our truth as individuals. I'm sharing about this because it's something that I'm exploring deeply within myself and it keeps showing up in my life as a challenge. You see, I share a lot of myself on social media and with my friends, but often when it comes to intimate relationships, I've noticed I hold back a little ... it's like I don't want to be 'too much' - too opinionated, too sexual, too business-focussed, too spiritual, too loving, too alternative, too mainstream, too crazy, too horny, too hippy ... fucking hell, it's crazy how we can judge ourselves and keep ourselves small just to please others.
Read MoreNext time somebody in your life triggers you (aka annoys you, pisses you off, makes you feel angry, sad, frustrated ... generally puts your whole body & mind into a feeling of distress), I encourage you to take a few moments to reflect on why you feel so affected by this person? You see, it's easy to instantly react and blame, tame and shame others - to make them 'wrong', to bitch and gossip, or even worse, collude with others behind their back.
Read MoreEducation and ongoing growth is the key to living a life full of amazing sex, intimacy and connection with ourself and with others. Aside from my own book, Ecstatic Sex & Deep Intimacy, I recommend these following books as resources that have changed my life and expanded my own experience sex, orgasm and love.
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