It’s easy to get caught up in the common myths that circulate in society about sex. As taboo as the topic is, it seems people love gossiping about the ‘rights and wrongs’ and the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of sex and relationships. Today, I’m here to debunk my top 3 myths and clear up the little lies that we seem to tell ourselves about what should be a normal, natural and healthy part of life.
Lately I’ve been thinking lots about the sensual side of relationships…not so much the physical sex, but the experiences that help us feel connection and love on a day-to-day basis. I believe that every woman and man secretly (or not-so-secretly) crave the following experiences and that they are the sensual building blocks of healthy and pleasurable relationships.
Read MoreLife as a serial entrepreneur and serial love addict isn’t always the best combination - both are long-term commitments that take time, passion and a hell-of-a-lot of energy and enthusiasm.
Read MoreWe all know what it’s like when life gets stressful…our emotional and physical health takes a dive and before long we find ourselves feeling like crap. All of us at some stage in life will experience major life events that increase our stress levels - illness, death of loved ones, work stress, sleepless nights with kids, failed friendships, broken hearts. The fact of the matter is that stress affects all areas of our lives, and often times, it ends up affecting our sex life.
Read MoreIt seems that in today’s day and age, there is a unique art to keeping a loving relationship alive and well. The rates of divorce are always on the rise and there is an epidemic of unhappy couples and failed long-term relationships. If I held the key to keeping the spark alive, then I’d be one happy and wealthy sexologist. Unfortunately though, every individual relationship has its own unique challenges, and there is no quick fix for a once happy (and now falling-to-bits) couple.
Read MoreSex is supposed to bring us joy and pleasure, but more often than not sex is filled with worry, stress, and anxiety. The topic of sex is very complicated and it’s completely normal for every individual to have their different hangups and challenges about sex at different stages of life. If you do have sexual challenges that concern you, it may be time to chat to a professional and address the concerns. But before you do, read on and you may find that your worry is actually very common, and that perhaps you just need to stop worrying, let go, and start having more fun.
Read MoreI’m sick and tired of everyone talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t get me wrong - I’ve read the book and seen the movie. Overall I think it’s great that conversations about a kind of sex not usually depicted in the mainstream have opened up. But today I’m not interested in talking about BDSM or the movies as such. Today I’m talking about 50 Shades of Gay. As much as the mainstream embraced BDSM, it still kind of fails to embrace all the shades. That’s right - I’m talking sexuality, and the fact it’s not black and white or always heteronormative. Sexuality should be discussed and re-branded as being one of many possibilities.
Read MoreIt seems we are all getting a little caught up in the daily grind and forgetting the importance of regular, healthy, pleasurable sex. Life is becoming more and more busy and feeling dissatisfied with sex is a common complaint amongst many. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, increasing your sexual happiness will do wonders for your overall physical and mental health and wellbeing. With this in mind, I have come up with 3 simple steps that give you a chance to boost your sexual happiness today:
Read MoreHolistic sex education in Australian schools is scarce. If education does take place, it’s limited to the bare essentials - how to put a condom on a banana, alongside various scare tactics surrounding the contraction of STI’S, HIV and unplanned pregnancy. In no way am I suggesting that the aforementioned topics are not important, (because they are) but what about all the other stuff?
Read MoreHolistic sex education in Australian schools is scarce. If education does take place, it’s limited to the bare essentials - how to put a condom on a banana, alongside various scare tactics surrounding the contraction of STI’S, HIV and unplanned pregnancy. In no way am I suggesting that the aforementioned topics are not important, (because they are) but what about all the other stuff? Communication skills (i.e. how to say no and how to say yes), consent, same-sex relationships and attraction, not to mention the fact that sex can be pleasurable and fun aren’t readily discussed. These essential topics are nowhere to be seen in the current curriculum and teenagers are often left to feel their way (pardon the pun!) through the ins and outs of sex and sexuality.
With this in mind, I believe it’s up to us as parents to lead the way and have the ability to sufficiently and confidently educate our children about sex and intimacy. (Aka ‘the talk’.) Easier said than done, right? It’s natural for parents to struggle with how to approach the topic in the ‘right’ way and the truth is, there is no ‘right’ way - you have to do what feels right for you as the parent.
Read MoreSex is supposed to be a fun, playful and pleasurable activity, right? Unfortunately sex is often associated with worry, anxiety and concern and many people are left wondering how they can make sex a more fun and enjoyable experience. With this in mind, I have come up with simple advice on how you can play more and worry less in the bedroom.
Read MoreLet’s face it - sex can become repetitive and boring if you keep doing the same thing over and over again. It’s up to you to try something new, and challenge the vanilla sex that you’ve become accustomed to. So while the temperatures plummet, think outside the box with 5 Ways To Kink up Sex This Winter.
Read MoreSensate Body Focus was developed by pioneering sex researchers, Dr William Masters and Virginia Johnson and was originally designed to help lovers overcome challenges such as performance anxiety, lack of desire, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation and lack of orgasm. Challenges aside, Sensate Focus is now used as a powerful practice that encourages a deeper connection and intimacy between lovers.
Read MorePhotographer iO Tillett Wright grew up between genders and sexualities. She's shot 2,000 people who consider themselves somewhere on the LBGTQ spectrum and asked many: can they assign a percentage to how gay or straight they are? Most people consider themselves to exist in the grey areas of sexuality, which presents a real problem when it comes to discrimination. Because where do you draw the line? (Filmed at TEDxWomen.)
Read MoreIn long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire?
Read MoreAs a young woman I experimented with my sexuality freely, openly and with confidence. When reflecting on my first sexual experience it was with a girl, we were both 14 years old.
Entering womanhood I found myself enjoying sex with both men and women, but mostly men. I was lucky enough to fall in love with more than one man during my twenties and at age 24 I was blessed with becoming a Mum to my beautiful daughter. I was in a loving relationship and happy and yet I knew deep down that I still had more to experience, more to explore.
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