Stuck in your head during sex? Anxious? Agitated? Here’s 4 grounding practices to shift your energy and make a change. Start today
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Holding space takes practice. Keep these tips in mind to guide you as you hold space for others and for yourself.
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At some stage in our lives we will all encounter a sex life that seems to have taken a turn for the worse. Long term relationships always go through their ups and downs and, more often than not, couples find themselves bored and uninspired by their sex life. It’s time to shake things up and add some spice to your life! Here are 5 realistic ways that you can spice up your sex life today:
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Let’s expand on our definition of foreplay beyond just the physical (although that is also a truly sensual and pleasurable thing that deserves more airtime). Here are 3 hot tips for anyone who wants to connect deeply with a partner/lover and can be practised anytime, not just in the initiation of sex.
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Creating a safe and sacred space for ourselves is the first step to experiencing solo and coupled Tantric sex. Personally, I have always been aware of how big an impact my surroundings have on my sensuality and sexuality, and so I always ensure my entire home feels like a sanctuary.
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It’s a common challenge in long-term relationships; all of a sudden ‘life’ seems to get in the way of mind-blowing sex and we are caught in something I like to call a ‘sex rut’. Ewwwwww… a sex rut, sounds shocking, doesn’t it. The fact is, many couples reading this are nodding their heads and agreeing that their sex life has turned to crap.
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One of the biggest questions I get asked as a sexologist is ‘How do my partner and I take sex from f*cking… to making love?’ Unfortunately, there’s no simple and easy way to answer this question because each couple is different, and each individual brings their own ‘stuff’ into the relationship. By ‘stuff’, I mean challenges from the past; childhood trauma, abuse, past relationship baggage…all the pain experienced as a human that is left unresolved, pushed down and not dealt with. Much of this pain prevents us from getting close to our partner. By close, I mean truly intimate, connected and spiritually united.
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When we choose to be in romantic relationship with another human, we choose to bare our soul and open our heart… all the while knowing that it may not work, it may not be the ‘forever fairytale’ we heard of as children, and it may, in the end, break our fu*cking heart to tiny little pieces. Yet knowing all this, we still enter into relationship… because there’s nothing quite like love and sex and all the fun stuff that relationship entails.
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Many clients come to me and report that sex is boring … it’s quick and very orgasm focussed and there’s something missing. Often my clients can’t pinpoint what is missing, but they know that there must be more to sex than what they’re experiencing. That something is the connection and intimacy that they unconsciously desire with their partner/lover and they don't know it's missing because they've never experienced it before.
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For those of you who have never experienced eye-fucking with a stranger, it goes a little something like this: firstly, you and your eye-fucking partner instantly feel that ‘something’ that draws you to each other … it’s like a magnetic sexual cosmic pull that’s intense from the moment you meet. The sexual chemistry is unashamedly there in all it’s glory and the energy between you both is like a bomb exploding inside your mind and body. Oh, and I refer to the connection as ‘cosmic’, because often it’s not always just your sex centre speaking, it’s your heart and your consciousness saying a ‘holy f*ck yes, yes, yes’ to that person.
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Magical anal sex?! Is there even such a thing?! Yes, yes there is, and if you’re reading this, I’m suspecting you’re curious as to how to experience it. So, what are the basics of magical anal sex and why is it so damn magical? Here’s 5 practical tips for those who want to try it, or those who want it to be a super powerful and pleasurable sexual experience.
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We’re either doing it, or not doing it. Talking about it, or not talking about it. Thinking about it, or not thinking about it. It’s a topic of discussion amongst the young and old and yet, more often than not, a lot of us struggle with actually having enough energy throughout the day to enjoy intimacy & sex with our partners or, dare I say, with ourselves. There are many factors that need to be considered when thinking about our drive for sex, but for now let’s look at how adding superfoods into your diet can up your libido and zest for life.
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Is Tantric sex a ‘thing’ for women who have sex with women? How can we have deeper intimacy and ecstatic sex on a regular basis? My sex life with my woman is stale, how can I bring back the excitement? Every week I get questions from women who have sex with women about how they can experience better, more connected sex (on a regular basis). I myself have explored the world of Tantra with a female lover, and so I’m here to impart some secrets I’ve learnt along the way about Tantric lesbian sex.
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Are you a lady in waiting attracting the prince whose looking good and going nowhere? Or are you a Queen ready for a King?
The lady in waiting can have a little bit of power by sleeping with a man and enchanting him with her sexuality. She can also have a little bit of power by meeting a man's desires, expectations and ideas of how his ideal woman should behave.
But she doesn't have legitimate power, because she is giving 80 per cent and he is only giving 20 per cent.
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Kissing isn’t always about smacking your lips together and sharing saliva … no, there is so much more to kissing than that. So, what is it that makes for an exquisite kiss between two lovers? Is it the actual technique? Is it the energy exchange? Is it fast & passionate, or slow and lingering … or somewhere in-between?
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Let’s be honest, what entails ‘sexiness’ in a man isn’t just good looks and charm … there’s a whole heap of other stuff that drives women crazy. Gentleman, if you’re serious about meeting the woman of your dreams, or at least sleeping with the woman of your dreams, then read on and take note.
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Let’s be honest, some women just do not enjoy giving blow jobs, full stop. And you know what, that’s ok, because worshipping co*k isn’t every woman’s cup of tea, so to speak. But then there’s the women who think they don’t enjoy it, but actually just don’t really know what to do … and so they’re not feeling confident with their blow job skills. Dear women who don’t love giving blow jobs, this article is for you.
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Let’s face it, women are not always easy to pleasure, nor are they easy to please. I know this because I am a woman, plus I’ve experienced sex with a number of women and wow, we certainly are all very unique in how we experience pleasure. If you’re reading this and relate, I’m here to give you a couple of simple tips and tricks that will guarantee increased pleasure that your woman experiences when she is with you next.
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Over the past few months essential oils have become a huge part of my everyday life, including my sex life. I use the oils in a hot bath, in a diffuser in my bedroom, on my skin as perfume, and in coconut oil as a massage oil and daily moisturiser. I can honestly say the oils have taken my sensual and sexual life to a whole new level of ecstasy!
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Essential oils really are a huge part of my life and my sanity. I use them every single day in all sorts of ways, including to boost my sensuality and sex drive. What I love most about essential oils is that they are 100% natural and most of them are safe to use both externally, and internally. Plus they smell so damn good that they make my entire body and house smell super sensual and delicious.
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