Tantra

Are you ready to elevate your intimate experiences and bring more sacred and mindful energy into the bedroom? Of course, you are!

Unveiling ecstatic pleasure through presence, breath and beyond!

A powerful practice you can use to help break down these walls is self-vulva massage. 

Listen & Learn! And then go practice 😉 You can find all these episodes on my website, or listen on iTunes, Spotify & Soundcloud.

Let’s expand on our definition of foreplay beyond just the physical (although that is also a truly sensual and pleasurable thing that deserves more airtime). Here are 3 hot tips for anyone who wants to connect deeply with a partner/lover and can be practised anytime, not just in the initiation of sex.

Class is in session.

Creating a safe and sacred space for ourselves is the first step to experiencing solo and coupled Tantric sex. Personally, I have always been aware of how big an impact my surroundings have on my sensuality and sexuality, and so I always ensure my entire home feels like a sanctuary.

What I’ve discovered about me over the past few months is that I’ve been really great at being the ‘strong’ woman. From a very young age I remember being proud of the fact that I was ‘independent’. This got me through my parent’s divorce, allowed me to travel the world alone at age 17, carried me through the break down of my relationship with my daughter’s father, and then got me through the ongoing homophobia I experienced when I came out as Bisexual and entered into a relationship with a woman. 

When we choose to be in romantic relationship with another human, we choose to bare our soul and open our heart… all the while knowing that it may not work, it may not be the ‘forever fairytale’ we heard of as children, and it may, in the end, break our fu*cking heart to tiny little pieces. Yet knowing all this, we still enter into relationship… because there’s nothing quite like love and sex and all the fun stuff that relationship entails.

As a sexologist, I have a bookcase full of sex-related books that I regularly re-read for inspiration and education. Reading is a fantastic way to self-educate, which is essential if you want a plentiful and pleasurable sex life. If you’re in a relationship, reading about sex can open up a healthy discussion about sex with your partner, and is a sure fire way to spice up your sex life. If you’re single, there is no better time than now to begin empowering yourself as a sexual being. Reading about sex is bound to attract amazing sexual experiences into your life, and there’s nothing better than a well educated and confident lover!

The following is a list of 4 books that have something for everyone. I can almost guarantee that if you read them you will learn something new and feel inspired to live a life full of amazing and plentiful sex.

Earlier this month I gifted myself a brand new Rose Quartz pleasure wand (aka dildo). Yes, you heard right, I bought an actual rose quartz crystal that’s been carved into a beautiful wand/cock/phallic-like shape and made specifically to insert inside the vagina for ultimate pleasure.

For those of you who have never experienced eye-fucking with a stranger, it goes a little something like this: firstly, you and your eye-fucking partner instantly feel that ‘something’ that draws you to each other … it’s like a magnetic sexual cosmic pull that’s intense from the moment you meet. The sexual chemistry is unashamedly there in all it’s glory and the energy between you both is like a bomb exploding inside your mind and body. Oh, and I refer to the connection as ‘cosmic’, because often it’s not always just your sex centre speaking, it’s your heart and your consciousness saying a ‘holy f*ck yes, yes, yes’ to that person.

Is it possible to ‘make love’ with someone when you sleep with them for the first time? Or make love to them even when you're not actually 'in love' with them? Yes. Yes. Yes. Often we make the mistake of assuming that 'making love' is something that’s only for people who are 'in love'. But this is far from the truth. When we are both connected at our three centres - our sex centre, our heart centre & our consciousness - sex becomes a beautiful exchange of energy, love and magical union. Sex becomes love in a physical and spiritual form.

Ladies, it’s time to honour our vagina’s and treat them like the divine and exquisite temple that they are, allowing only amazing energy and love to enter our sacred space. All too often we as a women don’t give our pussy the love that it needs and deserves. When we neglect our pussy it overflows into us not enjoying our sexuality in it’s fullness, and we definitely don’t reap the full benefits and pleasure of sex and love-making with others.

Is Tantric sex a ‘thing’ for women who have sex with women? How can we have deeper intimacy and ecstatic sex on a regular basis? My sex life with my woman is stale, how can I bring back the excitement? Every week I get questions from women who have sex with women about how they can experience better, more connected sex (on a regular basis). I myself have explored the world of Tantra with a female lover, and so I’m here to impart some secrets I’ve learnt along the way about Tantric lesbian sex.

Are you ready to take sex and intimacy to a whole new level? Do you feel like there’s something missing from your existing sex life? Or perhaps you’re craving a deeper and more powerful level of connection with your lover but can’t quite seem to reach it? Enter Tantric Sex. A conscious way of fucking that gives sex a whole new level of deliciousness and meaning. 

In my opinion, amazing sex can always feel even more amazing when you're met with an amazing playlist to fuck to. So, here's my top three playlists, ripe and ready for Summer.

She is a woman, who, through ritual or psychological development, has come to know the spiritual side of her sexuality, her true eroticism, and lives this out according to her individual circumstances. The Sacred Slut resides within us all, both women and men - she’s not ashamed of her sexuality, she embraces it all and owns that part of herself. 

The sacred art of cock worship, is it even a thing? Yes, it is! And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t require a bunch of magical Tantric sex techniques to achieve … in fact, cock worship is a simple and erotic practice that anyone can enjoy if they want it enough.So, what is cock worship? Well it’s a beautiful practice that involves worshipping and lavishing attention on the cock of your choice … naturally cock worship is best enjoyed with a lover of whom you adore.

Education and ongoing growth is the key to living a life full of amazing sex, intimacy and connection with ourself and with others. Aside from my own book, Ecstatic Sex & Deep Intimacy, I recommend these following books as resources that have changed my life and expanded my own experience sex, orgasm and love.

As women, when we allow ourselves to be penetrated by another, we open our pussy and womb space (and quite possibly mouth and ass) up to the consciousness of our chosen lover. We take them into us physically and, we take them into us energetically. We absorb their consciousness into our entire being. Often when this happens we open ourselves up to all sorts of emotions and feelings that impact us on a deep level in both positive and negative ways.

It’s no surprise that both the topic of sex and money still hold so much taboo and are surrounded with a whole heap of stigma and shame that gets in the way of us giving ourselves PERMISSION to experience lots of BOTH in our life. My personal belief is that the real ‘TANTRIC WAY’ embraces it ALL - abundant sex AND abundant cash flow. And so, living a ‘Tantric life’ is about breaking through the shame, guilt and unworthiness associated with sex and money, and stepping into a life that creates abundance on all levels! Because let’s face it, abundant money and conscious sex has the potential to bring an abundance of freedom and joy.

The sacred art of pussy worship, is it even a thing? Yes, yes it is. And if you’re new to the idea of pussy worship then sit tight, because you’re about to learn a thing or two about what it really means to truly love a woman in her entirety. Pussy, Yoni, Vagina, Vulva, Cunt, Kitty, Flower … to be honest it really doesn’t matter what we call it, what matters is that we ALL honour and worship every woman’s pussy like a fucking temple. A temple that demands deep reverence, love and full respect. The gift of the sacred art of pussy worship is that the woman who is receiving can do just that; surrender to the man (or woman) who is worshipping them and receive the gift of presence and pleasure that unfolds.